My Life Coach

And the good news is…I have a life coach!  Her name is Cathy Dean and she specialises in life coaching women who are in their forties and fifties.  It’s a tricky time when you can end up wondering ‘where did my life go?’ and ‘what happened to all my dreams?’.  I spoke to Cathy on the phone yesterday and she’s given me some exercises to do and just over two weeks to do them in.  She asked me what I wanted from the phone conversation and the first word that popped into my head was ‘acceptance’.  Like a lot of people I struggle to believe in myself and I know I have low self esteem; sometimes a lot lower than others!

But the trouble with becoming a successful writer is that there is an inevitable part of it which involves selling yourself and I am totally crap at that!  I hate the idea of selling myself, I don’t even like talking about myself!  I achieve more intimacy on this blog than I ever would face to face or on the phone.  There’s always a part of me that feels I’m not really worthy of any attention; it’s silly I know.  But I want to achieve things in my life and I’m deadly serious about wanting to make it as a writer so I thought the time was right to challenge my negative beliefs and Cathy is going to help me do that.  I’ll keep you posted on my progress.

For anyone who’s interested; here is the link to Cathy’s website


9 thoughts on “My Life Coach

  1. Hey now! This is an awesome leap forward… Great job. 🙂
    I know exactly what you mean about struggling to feel worthy. I deal with it daily.
    Best of luck to you, I think you’ll do wonderful.

  2. Thanks for posting the link! Like you, I struggle with the selling of self but I put it in a larger context: it seems as if we’re entering a golden age for writers–where so much is possible–perhaps in putting ourselves out there, we can make it a golden age for everyone. Works for me, mostly, always tweaking myself.

      • It’s assuredly a recommendation: I know what Cathy’s like In Real Life – and what a nice person her Wonderful Husband is 🙂 She’s a bundle of fun and energy and inspiration: she’s written a good tiny book for students going away to study for the first time and others in that sort of situation – I’m sure you’ll have a blast.

        She may also get to actually meet your sister at some point 🙂 Also, having met you In Real Life – you don’t do yourself, your talents or abilities justice. _Some_ people who know you well are able to appreciate you far more than you can – but then I suspect that’s the case for most of us. Andy

  3. Congratulations for taking action to get support 🙂

    I don’t sell my writing but ‘cos I run my own business that offers a service I do get the whole “yuckiness” (ihave I just made that word up?) of “selling yourself”. It took someone pointing out to me that selling yourself is a very different profession! 😉 In reality I’m offering a service/creation/solution (depending upon the client and their situation). That change in perspective helped me a lot – didn’t change what I offered but it didn’t feel as awkward when I invited people to experience my work in exchange for money.

    I don’t know about you but if I offer someone a hot drink and they decline I don’t take it to mean they think I’m a horrible person. If I give it any more thought at all, I presume that they are not thirsty or don’t like hot drinks etc. I realised that when I first started with my own business that I dreaded getting a no as I thought it was a personal rejection – that it meant in some way they thought I was a terrible person. I’ve now accepted that sometimes people will say no when I invite them to experience my service/creation/solution because sometimes they’re just not thirsty. That makes it so much easier to have the conversations and then move onto the next.

    I’ve no idea if that will be of any assistance but I share it in the hope it will and look forward to reading your writing in the “golden age of writers” (Which sounds fab to me 🙂 )

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